Accoring to a recent Loveawake dating reasearch picking up girls in clubs is more difficult than in many other places like, coffee shops or at your local grocery store. Because of things like noise and if you’re in a club, a girl will be more likely to think your trying to hit on her, so don’t look like a stalker! You’re out there having fun with a friend, you’re not out to hunt little rabbits a.k.a. the chicks.
You go out to a club, alone (this is difficult – not for beginners) or with a wing; man or woman, the woman is the best wing possible! When entering the club, your posture, quiet confidence and a smile is very important, so keep your head up and go in like you own the place. Don’t look, you stalker! Go and take a seat, at the bar, order your drink for you and your friend; now you can start looking for your prey, uhm i mean for chicks that are available.
When GOING IN or approaching a woman you must always speak as loud as possible, but no shouting, you don’t want to scare everyone around you. Your openers and routines will do you good,yes even the cheesy pick-up lines from your favorite movie, but they must be directed to the chick you are talking right now, so make a genuine remark about her. Talk a little and then ask for her number and go from there! Men tend to talk too little or too much. Stay with her for a few minutes, take her number and leave that scene.
Choose a good spot for you to stand. In general the dance floor is a no go zone, unless you’re a professional dancer you should avoid the dance-floor. You don’t want to make a complete fool of yourself for everybody to see. You are an alpha male, not the court jester!
Approaching a group. Women don’t really go out all alone in a club, they have at least one girl-friend with them, but mostly they go in groups. When you spot your next target (CHICK), you will not approach only her, you’re going to introduce yourself and your friend to her group, you’ll not talk to them very much, but first impressions really do count. Make a joke, humor is the key to get liked quickly and easily by the hole group. After this you’ll have earned the right to take her alone with you in a more quiet place and move on from there.
Clubs are difficult because there are many distractions, but don’t worry, women are there in general to be picked up.
Do women like nice guys? Women don’t have anything against nice guys, but they don’t consider the nice guy as proper boyfriend material. Bad boys and nice guys have the same success rate when approaching women, it’s low, but bad boys approach lots of women, meanwhile the nice guys move very slowly and approach only one woman.
Women don’t like pushovers! Being a good guy is not the same as being the nice guy, in general nice guys do lots of favors for women to whom they’re attracted, but they keep their attraction to the woman a secret. After a while they start to blame everybody because they’re not getting the same kind of appreciation from the women.
Nice guys are predictable. When you’re always nice to a chick, you’re not a challenge. If you always agree with her demands, you’ll never stand up for yourself.
They don’t seem like good protectors. Avoiding conflict with any cost, nice guys will often look like wussies. Running scared to your “mama” is not going to get you any points.
Being a challenge for women is a must if you want to be more than a friend, and nice guys don’t present themselves like that. They always put somebody else on the first place so they put aside their needs and put the object of their desire on a pedestal. The time of the gods has past. Women are only human, so don’t put their needs above yours!
Nice guys also tend to be too agreeable, and that shows their lack of control. They rarely speak up and rarely state in a clear manner what it is they want, need and expect.
“Girls don’t like nice guys”. We all heard that from someone, but the truth is that nice guys can be hypocrites. That’s because of their “secret crush agenda”, and they are only nice because they want to get the girl. But when the inevitable fallout comes, the dreadful “friend zone”, they blame the girls.
Bottom line, being a nice guy is rarely because you’re really a good guy. Women don’t reject a man because he’s too good!